Mistakes, the stress they create and the remedy....

At times why it happens, that all seems to go wrong. Things which other wise are on auto pilot mode and functions smoothly, that also starts giving trouble. ?
While I dont know why it happens , but all I know is these times are very depressing and does havoc to one's confidence.
What is to be done in this situation??Stay put and stay calm- easier said than done

That's the max you can do. Irritation and frustration will want to creep inside you and take control of your entire body , mind and soul. You just put a no entry board for it.
Just try and sail thru, dont get your ego in place. It is given its a bad time, so even if you have to just listen and absorb what is being said - be it.
Please understand this is a phase - like all others. And this one phase can not , rather should not rule your life. This too shall pass , and you and your confidence will remain happily ever after.

What causes more stress to us is - what will happen to my image ? I am know as the best cook in my entire family , how can I mess up the bhindi ki subzi in a family dinner ? Or I am the rockstar of my team , have got so many awards, what will bosses think of me when they get to know I did this mistake. ? I am such an amazing driver, my friends swear by my driving skills,  hell will break when they get to know I bumped the car while parking .
These are just very basic and few example , all of us if we think deeper along with the consequences of any mistake that we do , harm to our image is part of the package.

Get over it people, you are a human and making mistakes is destined for you. Dont be over critical for yourself and ruthless towards your own self.

Esp I have seen people going thru miserable time, when some blunder happens at work and the hell they go thru. Stress is just to high and you have no one who will just come and tell you its ok. and I am with you

What do you do then ?
close your eyes and think of the person who loves you the most or you love the most. Think with this mistake , what will change between you and him/her. If the answer is nothing- you can smile back
When I am in this situation ( trust me I am thr often :)) ) I just think will my mom love me any less for this? Or my daughter - will she not say " I love you mumma " just because I did this mistake ?
And with all this I feel better and ready to face any situation .

Problem in life is we give too much importance to things/people who have very little meaning in our real life . And people who actually shape our lives or are the reason for us to smile - we ignore them.
We feel career gives us happiness and satisfaction , money , victory gives me pleasure. Truth is nothing but just pure love , affection and caring is what can give you happiness.

Chase Beigns Now.....

How Often it is that you get to do work of your choice? Something you really enjoy ??

Reasons for not having a work of choice can be many :

- You dont know what exactly is your choice
- Your choice doest have as much money as a main stream job
- Its not practical to do what you like
- You dont like any thing
- You realized your choice too late in life and now you dont have time to follow it

Reasons can be whatever- but the fact remains we all in some place and more often than not our hear lies somewhere else .

I still remember when I saw " Dil toh pagal hai" - I was in so much love with the movie and the Dance group. I thought I found my true profession - would join a company like this and do stage shows. It will be so much fun even when you are just rehearsing with friends. Even working hard would be fun as it is dance and drama. Plus in breaks you get to eat Pizza , burger and no tension of exercise either. :)

Little did I realize that , no Sharukh khan or Yash Chopra will land up at my door step and hire me for this . I need to make efforts towards it.

I really have loads of respect for all those who are able to pursue their passions and able to do something that they really like. I know a lot of people who while doing their normal office jobs also find out time for following their passions.

But mostly people like me get trapped in this maize known as life. It keeps giving us tasks and we get into just finishing those. And just loose the sight is that life is for living and not fulfilling tasks. And life is a perfectionist in keeping us engaged with too many tasks without fail.
Then these set of people will sit some day tired to look back in life and feel - " what have we done" wasted life in just accomplishing tasks where we could do so much

Everyone , and read it again everyone has a talent and a hidden passion. Its just that we dont pay attention to what we like.

Following what you like can give you un-matched happiness and satisfaction. It requires a little strength and lot of determination to follow . But incase you get there you will not be just a happy person but a happy soul
Enough time is wasted in cribbing about not liking what we do. Its time for us to create what we love and like.

And why am I preaching this?? Because while I write and get others to do it...its more for myself. As I am too a part of that " most group "  that just feels sad for not getting what we want.

Lets all chase ourselves, and lets have happy souls all around!!

New Life

I am planning to change the name of my Blogger page to " Sound of Naina" - my sweet bundle of joy, she lighted our life on 23rd Mar 2011. Ever since that day- infact much before that my life was just playing one sound and that was hers :)
I am not unique, it happens with every mom..from the day you conceive you just start behaving so differently. I remember simple things I could never get into my lifestyle- all of that came so naturally to me . For eg. drinking 8-12 glass of water, having milk, medicines on time ....and the list is endless.
I had followed all things to the book - line by line. But still I and my baby had to face issues. So one suggestion that I can give to all expecting mothers is...what is most important is staying happy. Carrying a baby is indeed a responsible activity but not so much that you are always under pressure and move away from life. Remember you are nurturing a life within you- and that cannot happen best till you live yourself.
Every phase of pregnancy is a beautiful phase. First phase is the toughest in my view. As you reach in it with just one discovery . Its a new feeling , new life, new responsibility that you have to cope with. To add to it , your health doesn't support at times. But the good part is all the attention and caring you get from your loved ones- husband, mother in law, friends, family. By the second trimester you have got used to the feeling and the idea has slowly settled in . Its your normal life with the additional joy of carrying. In the last trimester when it gets tough to move around or go out often, its a wonderful feeling to feel the movement of your baby inside. The priceless moments you and your partner spends feeling and talking to the baby are so beautiful. I spoke a lot to my daughter in that term- I still have to see the impact of it on her :)
I wrote a lot also during that time. Those one can call " Notes to my Baby" I wanted my child to feel a part of the journey we had.
Being the hyper me...I gathered so much of information about everything related to pregnancy and babies that I am a mini encyclopedia myself now :)

Wishes and GOD

I wonder how are wish's granted by GOD?? We ask it and thus we get it or it is destined for us to get and thus we get it.
Does that mean by our pleading and asking for some blessing it doesn't have an impact ?
My mom used to tell me if I be a bad girl God will punish me and take away my blessings.
This is further strange - by doing wrong blessings can be taken away then by doing good why they cant be added?? May be they are - who knows ? We human beings cant comment on this.

Kabhi aisa hua hai that you are standing in a temple and praying something and a strange feeling tells you that the prayer has been heard and wish granted. What an amazing feeling it is!!!
Mere saath as always ismein bhi "pachka" hua- One upon a time I was praying in a very crowded temple right outside the main idol. Like in our hindi films koi phool nahi gira but the pujari in between all people there, choose me and gave me a " puja ki chunari ". Can't tell you how blessed I felt, bass jis cheez ko mangne ayi thi woh puri ho he jayegi aisa vishwaas ho gaya mujhe. Par hua kya ??- NOTHING.
I didntot get what I had wished for. I wonder what that blessing was for or whether it was just a mere coincidence?
Basically the point remains how to get wish granted from GOD ? People spend hours in pleasing GOD - but does it really matter.
You are here in this world just do your bit and leave the rest . Jo hona hota hai akhir wahi hota hai

Expressing emotions!!

Returning back to my blog after years and was thinking what to start with? What a topic my mind picked up- Tears!! No super logic to it- may be this is top of the mind topic I have been thinking about

My mother called me this morning and I missed it as I was busy with some other work. Her call came again within 15 mins- left me thinking what has happened? The moment I picked up the call, the voice on other side was so worried. Last night I complaint of pain in my hand to her, she was worried for it and wanted to inquire about my well- being and wanted to come and see me. I was like " maa its ok, its not a major thing- I'll be ok. Dont trouble yourself , no need to come.
She started crying, saying its been 21 days she saw me and was missing me , hence wanted to see me. Pain was just a reason. I consoled her , and said " aa- jao"
Kept staring at my handset for few mins, before I could continue my work

What do tears signify ???
Happiness, helplessness, anger, love, sympathy.......they basically reflect extreme emotions! Like for my mother and almost all mothers its love for their kids.
But this form of expression is limited to few- so do others dont get these emotions ???

What is it then??
Are tears reflection of ones's weakness- when you cant express your emotions by any other mode, u cry!!
Crying is good at times, it washes away whatever negative is stored in you. But as excess of everything is bad - this holds true with tears as well

The silence , the vacuum, the loneliness inside people many a times find its way out in form of tears.

But what about fake tears- " crocodile tears "as many call them . Getting tears is it so easy? I always feel tears come from inside and one has no control over it .

Whatever it is - for me tears are most pure form of expressing emotions and one needs to respect it at all times!!

Random thot

Its been almost two days since i havent worked much in office...not that i have done something great outside office either . God knows whats wrong, how can once spend the entire day infront of the TP doing nothing, just staring at work getting piled up. M jus not able to gather myself to put my energies into it- or may be my mind is pre-occupied, or may be I dont like what I have to do, or may be I am jus mad , who loves cribbing???

i just hope this phase ends soon, i hate not to work with my heart into it.

Dhoondte reh jaaoge !!

When I joined this corporate world in June'06 I was super excited. I was so self motivated that I did any and every work that came my way....and that too without any expectations!! People around me did took un-due advantage of this and gave me thr share of work as well..but I never realised....I mean I thot its my work and have to do it. My story is not unique, most freshers do come with this attitude.
But over years...why does it get washed away? Why does the enthusiasm ends? After few initial years we start getting into questions like - why do i work? what will I get? Why am I only asked everytime to do extra work?

Few probable reasons can be :
- The world is different from our imagination. We see all sorts of harsh corporate truths around - favor ism, biased bosses, no growth ( despite of hard work) , chamchas , etc. All these things kill the freshness/ motivation in an individual.
- Over the years people feel they are not getting right share of thr contribution- either in monetary terms or higher/better position/ opportunity
- People get content with whatever they have . The drive to achieve gets missing.
- People just want to project themselves as a " top Performer" initially to make a place for them , and once they get this they get to thr normal self.

I have thought of few things that can help in retaining the motivation :
- Always look at people lower than your level - ths is not a very good approach for Long Term growth . But by looking a your juniors you feel better in comparative sense
- Talk to people who like the role you are doing or who are interested in your area. This will make you feel good about your work
- For Females ( Wear new clothes to office - that in itself is a very big motivator to be in office )
That's all I can think of right now. Unfortunately for bosses and other corporate stuff i cudn't think of a solution.

Happy Working Friends- lets go on !!