Marriage is the most beautifull and important decision in ones life. As this is the only relationshipp that is by choice....and families change :) But I feel really sad seeing that now a days we make this event just too loud. So loud that the real essence of this gets lost, the feelings that should flow between the two individulas and families just dont take place.
Either side is more concerned about logistics rather the marriage itself....tent laga ke nahi, khana kam toh nahi padega, xyz ki saari aa gayi kya....kaam wali kahan hai....gadde wala kitne gadde de gaya....pandit ji ka samman....aur GHODI wala kahan hai???? In all this crisis u hardly get to hear your own voice, how can u even listen wat the other person wants to tell you.
It's an event in itself- a very big one. My brother's marriage got successfully over last week. And I gota chance to witness this humoungous event closely.
The two people tieing the knot are supposedly to be the hero-heroine of the show. Unka toh gadha bana ke rakhtein hai...they are so stupidly involved in so many rituals and running here and there and pleasing alliens...by the time the phera's were happening- poor couple was dozing off...dnt blame it on the rituals...m sure they have their significance..all my concern is "essence" We all in a nut shell want the GOD's, the elders to bless this relationship and shower their blessings....so be it that way....It doesnt have to be LOUD!!
Believe me the only charm I had was that we will be having a new family member, who is of my age, with whom I can share my joys n sorrows...But to be very honest by the time we got the poor girl to our place I dint have the strenghth to sit with her and say "hi" also. All I wanted was REST....
And to top it all, there were discussions months before the event of how to please everyone. And now when it is over , discussions are still their, but around how people went un-happy. Grrrr
Well I pitty my Mom, after all she was leading the show single handedly...we all were basically taking instructions from her.
4 comments:
Wow, how very true!
well, i think that all these rituals, the events.. bla bla.. are part and parcel of the marriage function.. but its ok, i mean, it happens once in a lifetime (under usual/normal circumstances), and thus there is a general tendancy to hype it as much as possible :)
newaz, m sure post marriage, few weeks.. it'll all be great.. wish him from my side...
-R
I agree with you. I myself have witnessed two Marrieges. Most of time is spent on just pleasing your relatives and still by the ened of the EVENT, they are not happy and cursing on smallest of possible mistakes.
But this is what Society is, that is i feel marriege is not just following these rituals. If today I feel for someone as my wife from bottom of my heart i do not need this MESS to stamp my FEELINGS.
Thanks All for the comments.
RJ- Sure will wish Paurush from your side :) But be aware part n parcels in marriges are just too high :)
RK ji- aap ko toh award milna chaiye- two- two marriges..I m sure ab tumhari toh bhaag kar he hogi ;-)
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